It might appear as the most unromantic thing ever, but in recent years more and more couples are deciding to sleep in separate rooms. The reasons are usually practical: the partner snores, gets up too often to go to the bathroom, keeps the light on while reading, steals the blanket or even occupies the whole bed. A recent survey indicates that in the UK alone, one couple out of 5 no longer share the same bed. Neil Stanley, director of the Sleep Laboratory at the University of Surrey, analyzed the sleeping routine of 40 couples and discovered that the quality of sleep for couples who slept together was much lower than those who slept in separate beds.
What are the benefits of this “night divorce“? A well-rested person enjoys a better psychophysical well-being, which results in fewer health problems, fewer accidents at work or on the road and less quarrels with their partner, leading to fewer divorces! Experts point out that both partners should make this decision, or one could suffer from the other’s choice, viewing it as a punishment or the beginning of a relationship crisis.
Skeptics might raise the issue of lost intimacy among couples that sleep in separate beds. In this regard, Dr. Stanley responds ironically that the intimacy of the couple really lives when the couple is awake, not when they are sleeping. In some cases, the distance from the partner can increase the desire, because it is widely known that routine kills passion.
Furthermore, sleeping together in bed is a relatively recent habit that only finds its origins in the age of industrialization, when families had to give up the second bedroom due to the small size of the house. The situation in Italy has not changed since then: according to statistics, the houses are quite small and only a small number of couples are willing to spend the night in separate rooms.
How about you? Would you be willing to sleep in a different room than your partner on behalf of a long, sweet rest?